Calling for Mentorship

Most of you are already well aware of my role as a mentor to fellow stroke survivors, and their families. Finding myself in the situation where I experienced fear and loneliness following a stroke  I understand what it feels like. Once all the formal help has stopped we find ourselves and our families struggling with the ongoing difficulties that arise. As if that wasn’t enough of a challenge we do not have anyone to turn to for advice, support or guidance. To be able to talk to someone who has experienced the same is invaluable they can give confidence, say it as it is and talk about ways they found to cope with and hopefully win that situation or battle.

Stroke continues to present challenges for months, even years after we return home and because support is not ongoing, often survivors and their family members become more and more isolated, afraid and depressed. Accidents happen, the survivor may give up trying and become more unwell eventually even ending up back in a hospital.

Would it not be better and cost effective also for the NHS to provide funding for people like me, so we are able to travel and visit more survivors and their families. As soon as the formal help stops we go in. Does this not make common sense?

In reality, many survivors when living alone, become so lonely, they just need someone to talk to so block appointment time of GP’s. When they have questions that are serious but none medical, doctors may not be best qualified to answer, mentors could answer these important questions, such as how to overcome daily daunting difficulties, freeing doctors time for diagnosing and treating medical conditions.

I have been mentoring since my book has been published, I do this all over the world and people naturally reach out to me, but if it were to be a formal funded role, I could visit in person and do so much more.

I trust everyone reading knows exactly where I am coming from, and understands only too well the isolation, fear and loneliness stroke causes the whole family.

Here is one example in the Bury Times this week, please cut and paste below into your browser.

http://www.burytimes.co.uk/news/15631257.Family_of_man_who_has_suffered_3_strokes_calls_for_more_support/

 

4 Responses to “Calling for Mentorship

  • I wholeheartedly agree! Mentoring is valuable for the mentor and the mentee! The stroke mentoring position should be funded!

    • Hi Sharon,
      Thank you for your comment, if it could be funded so much more could be possible. By visiting people face to face and working with the whole family, you also identify other ways you are able to help, as I am sure you are already aware. How we can possibly turn it into a formally funded role, is the huge challenge.

      Kind regards,

      Sas

  • Hi Sas, totally agree about peer support and mentoring only those who have been through the stroke experience can truly understand what another stroke person is going through.
    I’m 24 years post my first stroke and 17 years post my second stroke and the peer support of fellow stroke survivors has been what kept me going over these years.

    This also applies as you well know, to family and caregivers who have their own struggles dealing with their loved ones stroke journey.

    Here in Hamilton New Zealand we have a very active peer support group for stroke survivors, regular lunch social group and support groups for caregivers and the peer support and mentoring these groups provide is invaluable. check out our web site at http://www.strokefoundationhamilton.co.nz to see what we are doing all run totally by a dedicated team of unpaid volunteers.

    Warmest regards Paul

    • Hi Paul,

      Absolutely spot on Paul, everyone needs support following a stroke. Unfortunately many here have transport issues along with confidence regarding going out, which I know you already know. The whole family needs more support before they reach that stage and recognition of the daily struggles they all encounter, as I know you fully appreciate and recognise. All the fabulous work you do illustrates exactly how you understand others difficulties. It is at the stage immediately when the formal help stops, where I believe the role I do works at its most beneficial and given funding to travel and go into homes greater help could be given.

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