As one door closes another one opens

Immediately following a stroke, all the medical issues are addressed and taken care of, but as the months pass and we emotionally begin to return in some degree to our former selves, we are faced with additional difficulties, ones for which we have been ill prepared.

Despite this ‘alien’ body some of us inhabit and find difficult to operate, we still believe we are who we were prior to stroke previously. If we were active we long, even more, to be active again, especially when our friends talk about these activities, such as having been out for a ride, going for a swim or to the gym.

Having been very much an ‘outdoor girl’ the summer is the most difficult time for me. I long to go for a walk, tack up early morning and go out for a ride with the wind against my face. Yet these days I am not even capable of seeing early mornings, my brain doesn’t allow me to function.

It is due to situations such as these that we are at huge risk of becoming very low, even depressed spending all our time reminiscing and focusing on all those closed doors. What we need to do is recognise and embrace this and think it’s just for now, nothing is forever and it’s another challenge to overcome.

We must then look at what is available to us, look at it with totally fresh eyes and perspective, ‘a stroke of luck’, the luxury of time to try something new. This way we are not making comparisons of how we used to do an activity, instead we are achieving something we haven’t managed before, despite our current situation. (I have made some suggestions in my book).

Personally I have filled this huge void with a totally new hobby which is painting. I have included a photo of my most recent picture at the end of this blog. I’ve never painted prior to stroke and because of my disability I have to use my non dominant hand, so it illustrates if I can do it anyone can.

As a result of my new hobby I have raised money for stroke, cancer and a local hospice. The horrible feeling that stroke left me with of not being able to do anything for anyone else any longer has been temporarily removed.

The painting below was done at my local art group and is based on a photograph taken of a Worcestershire view. We painted in oils using an impressionistic style with Monet very much in mind. I struggle during the classes due to fatigue, difficulty with concentration, weaker eyesight & hearing on one side, but both the teacher & my fellow students allow my frequent interruptions and understand my need to ask for assistance in processing what was said. At the end of each class I struggle to stay awake but due to the satisfaction gained I feel it is well worth the battle.

Also, prior to stroke I had never felt the need or believed I had the ability to write for others, yet I have written my book to help fellow survivors and their families & now my blog.

Although I am new to this blogging business I intend to continue.


2 Responses to “As one door closes another one opens

  • Sas, yet another amazingly inspiring description of reality.

    That quote comes to mind… ‘When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but so often we look so long at the closed door, that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.’
    Helen Keller

    Our brains can be so powerful (negatively as a survival technique)….but when we think/feel a negative then we should try and re-feel a positive. It works with practise 🙂

    • Thank you for your follow and feedback yes the brain is amazing, we do have the power to rethink and turn negative thoughts into positive powerful, beneficial ones.

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